Let’s face it, we’ve all spent some of our time as 11 or 12 year old girls planning the “perfect guy” we have to have one day. Sometimes they are meaningful qualities like kindness and respect, and other times they are overly specific standards for their physical appearance.
Ladies, have we ever stopped to think that maybe, just maybe, we need to make sure we are who we need to be as people, before we set such high standards for the guys in our lives?
If the guy we are interested in is a great, God-fearing guy, he’s going to have some standards too. Standards for their character and relationship with Christ and others are good things. If this guy knows this, he’s going to have some pretty high standards for his dream girl’s character. Are we as ladies living up to these?
Nothing in a relationship is ever one-sided. If we are going to hold guys to a certain level of character, we need to check ourselves, and make sure we are living up to that level as well.
Let’s take the fruit of the Spirit for instance: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, and so on. I’m sure all of us could say we want a joyful, happy guy to spend the rest of our lives with. But, if we wake up every morning with a bad attitude and a frown on our face, is it really fair for us to hold our future husband to that standard?
Singleness is such a blessing. One of the biggest blessings is that we have a time to grow. We have these years to work on our character, and to develop the good qualities we want in a husband one day. I pray we all can use this time to reflect on what we want in a guy, and turn that back on ourselves.