Serving Your Siblings 4

In my family, I am the oldest of 5 kids, 4 girls, 1 boy. Whenever I leave the house, I miss them like crazy. I’m anxious for the day when I move out and it’s So. Very. Quiet. But I haven’t always been that way. I used to fight with my siblings frequently, sometimes over really stupid stuff. I’m not saying I have all the answers now, or that my relationship with my siblings is perfect, but I have improved and am here to give you the tips that have helped me.

1. Pray for your siblings.

If you’re anything like the majority of humankind, praying for people that really get on your nerves is really hard.

But it’s so worth it. 

It helps you change your mindset to the fact that they have struggles too and they have lives of their own that are sometimes chaotic (yes, even your littlest siblings have bad days when their lives get out of whack, whether they lose a toy or miss a nap!) Pray for them, and for your relationship.

2. Don’t pick fights.

If your sibling takes something of yours, comes into your room and annoys you, or just gets on your nerves, LET IT GO (and break into Frozen songs).

It’s simple, just hard. Don’t let it bother you.

If there’s a genuine problem, take it to your parents. If they’re just getting on your nerves, ignore it and let it go. This saves so many fights and strife.

3. Do something nice for them.

A little act of kindness goes a very long way.

Children are pretty easily pleased.

Clean their room for them, buy them an ice cream cone, or watch a movie with them. If they are younger than you, they really just want some of your attention. If they’re older, they like to know you look up to them.

If you have siblings at home, you have a ready-made outlet in which to serve.

Seize the opportunity. Show the love of Jesus to your siblings through kindness and love.

If you need any advice or have questions, email us! We love hearing from our readers.

With love,

Project Virtue

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4 thoughts on “Serving Your Siblings

  • Hailey R.

    Love it!! My relationships with my siblings has been a HUGE struggle for me(especially now that I also have 4 siblings)!! Loved the article!! Thank you!!

  • Hannah White

    Such good advice! I became an oldest sibling earlier last year, when my older brother moved out. My sister left for her third year of college six hours away, and I found myself the oldest child at home, with four little siblings. It’s definitely been a struggle, and what you said about praying for them is such good advice. Thank you for the reminder!